What MeetMe Members Are Talking About – Week of 4/4

Each week, we pick our favorite trending photo hashtags to give you a peek into the lives of MeetMe members. Check back weekly to find out what our members are talking about!

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#Chocolate

Easter was earlier this week, so bunnies, baskets and jellybeans have been popping up in our newsfeeds like crazy. MeetMe members love their candy too, particularly the chocolate variety. Check out this amazing chocolate-covered strawberry – it’s practically a work of art!

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#WakeUp

Isn’t sleeping in on a lazy weekend the best? For those of us who aren’t early risers, there’s nothing like it. It looks like this pup wants to sleep in too! Surely, he’s been working hard all week – he deserves it! Pets have it good, don’t they?

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#Game

With March Madness wrapping up, we’ve been seeing plenty of game-day party pics and members representing their favorite teams. It looks like MeetMe member was lucky enough to see one of the games in person. How cool is that? Extra points for the artsy photo!

What’s your favorite chocolate treat? Are you a morning person or a night owl? And what’s your favorite sport to watch live? Tell us in the comments section!

The Fifth Pillar of Friendship: Friendship is fluid.

We’re posting a five-part series based on Co-founder Catherine Cook’s TEDxBay Area Women talk! Check back here for the next installment.

With the introduction of the online term “friend” our definition of what a friend is has broadened significantly. Of my 700+ Facebook friends, I only keep in touch with about 1/8 of them, but I know who all of them are.

I don’t need to get to know all of my Facebook friends because I’ve met all of them – I’ve explored the bounds of our friendship. I am much more interested in meeting new people, because as I get older and people flow in and out of my life, the people who are most important to me will change. That’s not to say the friendship ends, it just evolves. The goal of MeetMe is to introduce you to your next group of friends to explore.

We’re trying to figure out that spark that makes new friendships happen, because it is inconceivable to me that there will not be the mobile equivalent of the mall or the coffeehouse that will intelligently take into account location, interests, and every other available cue to make serendipity happen and friendship work.

How have your friendships evolved over the years? Where do you see some of them going in the future? We want to hear from you in the comments section!

What MeetMe Members Are Talking About – 3/21

Each week, we pick our favorite trending photo hashtags to give you a peek into the lives of MeetMe members. Check back weekly to find out what our members are talking about!

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#Gamer

MeetMe members LOVE playing video games! Xbox, PS3, Wii, they love them all. Lots of our members bond over gaming, from their favorite genre to cheats to get ahead. What could be more satisfying than virtually slaying a friend in a game?

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#AdventureTime

Who says cartoons are just for kids? MeetMe members are obsessed with Adventure Time, the hugely popular animated series on Cartoon Network. The show follows Finn and his shapeshifting dog Jake though their many adventures in the Land of Ooo. Check out this member’s awesome fan art!

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#Hungry

If there’s one thing MeetMe members love more than eating, it’s posting pictures of their food. It looks like this member is about to indulge a serious sweet tooth – hopefully with some friends. Mmm, save some for us!

The Fourth Pillar of Friendship: Friendship needs intention.

We’re posting a five-part series based on Co-founder Catherine Cook’s TEDxBay Area Women talk! Check back here for the next installment.

A person who does not want to make friends will hang out alone. Everyone knows how to make sure someone doesn’t talk to them. You stick your headphones in and clearly zone out. No one will approach you.

Only when you’re open to friendship will you make friends. When someone moves into a new city they are on the lookout for new friends and they do activities where they can meet people, like joining a recreational sports league or frequenting a particular bar of coffee place. There is intention to meet someone new.

Intention is why Facebook is not right for meeting new people. The context is not right for meeting new people. On Facebook, if you send someone you don’t know a friendship invite, it will get ignored. People on Facebook are not in the mood to meet new people. On meeting networks, it’s different. Everyone is open to meeting new people because that is what the atmosphere is all about.

What MeetMe Members Members Are Talking About – 3/14

Each week, we pick our favorite trending photo hashtags to give you a peek into the lives of MeetMe members. Check back weekly to find out what our members are talking about!

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#SpringBreak

Woohoo! It’s Spring Break for many of MeetMe’s college members this week. Whether they’re partying at the beach or having a staycation at home, we have to admit we’re a little jealous. Check out this member’s beautiful photo at the beach! Looks like someone’s having an awesome Spring Break.

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#NoSleep

Some of our MeetMe members are serious night owls! We get it, sometimes when you’re online chatting with friends or finishing up homework, you lose track of time. This member is spending the night in the recording studio. We wonder what kind of music they’re creating…

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#PuppyLove

This is one of our favorite hashtags! MeetMe members have the cutest furry best friends. Look how tiny this puppy is! Keep sharing your adorable pet photos for a chance to be featured!

Want a chance for your photos to be included in our weekly round-up? Upload a photo to Photoboard using one of the trending hashtags and we might just pick you!

What’s your ultimate Spring Break vacation? Are you a night owl too? Are you an animal lover? Let us know in the comments!

The Third Pillar of Friendship: Friendship isn’t predictable, but it’s also not random.

We’re posting a five-part series based on co-founder Catherine Cook’s TEDxBay Area Women talk! Check back here for the next installment.

When two people meet, a lot goes on in the background. You subconsciously notice tiny cues as to what the person is like. Maybe it has to with what they’re wearing or how they speak. With all these cues happening at once a person cannot pick out what draws them to someone. When people choose to become friends, although the connection itself isn’t random, it’s hard to realize exactly how or why that friendship formed. Part of the reason this is is because people are notoriously poor at figuring out what they want in another person.

As a study last year by Dr. Finkle from the Association of Psychological Science pointed out, dating-site algorithms fail at predicting successful relationships and there is no substitute for spending 2 minutes with a person over a cup of coffee. Thought they can list out qualities about what they want in someone to date, those qualities do not tend to actually fit with the type of person they typically are attracted to. People are equally poor at figuring out the qualities that make a good friend. When I try to describe my closest friends, I end up contradicting myself because they don’t all share the same personality traits and interests. It’s impossible to pinpoint what makes those friends right for me, and others not. And, if it’s impossible for me to figure it out, then it’s definitely impossible for a company to figure it out.

I learned just how hard it is to pick a friend out of a list as an incoming freshman at Georgetown University. I entered the CHARMS program – a roommate matching system – rather than having a randomly assigned roommate. We had to fill out a questionnaire that described what we were looking for and then we could message back and forth before agreeing to be roommates.

There were a few girls I chatted with before finding one who I thought would be a good friend and roommate. Online we seemed like we would be a good fit, our profiles matched up very well. We even had the same taste in TV shows and music. Unfortunately, within my first day of meeting her in person I knew there would be no way we would be friends, and I’m sure she knew it too.

In comparison, sometimes you meet people and just hit it off. My friend Jessie and I met at the Georgetown bookstore, and in the course of buying books we became great friends. Picking someone out of a list is not only more time-consuming and less magical, but it doesn’t work as well. As Malcom Gladwell illustrates in Blink, you can figure out a lot about a person within the first minute you meet them. You can’t necessarily pinpoint qualities, but your gut-feeling is generally accurate. That’s why algorithms and online profiles don’t matter. Human interactions is all that matters. To know if you have chemistry with someone, you need to talk to them!

It’s important to note that though my meeting with Jessie was serendipitous, it wasn’t random. I wasn’t shopping in a random store in a random city; I was browsing in my college bookstore, surrounded by people in close proximity with shared ambitions and life stages – and, I was looking for friends.

What MeetMe Members Members Are Talking About – Week of March 6th

Each week, we pick our favorite trending photo hashtags to give you a peek into the lives of MeetMe members. Check back weekly to find out what our members are talking about!

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#Music

MeetMe members are so passionate about music! Whether they’re discovering new bands or writing their own tunes, they love to share their favorite songs and bond over music. Clearly this member is proud of his beautiful acoustic guitar!

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#CollegeLife

With so many of our members in college, it’s no wonder that #collegelife is trending in a big way right now. We love seeing photos of your campus, your dining hall, and even your homework. Keep it up! We’re proud of our student members.

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#Breakfast

MeetMe members start their day off right: a healthy breakfast with a side a Photoboard. Whether it’s eggs and bacon or plain old cereal, we love that members show us their food. #Yummy!

Want a chance for your photos to be included in our weekly round-up? Upload a photo to Photoboard using one of the trending hashtags and we might just pick you!

What’s your current favorite band? Best part of college life? What’s your favorite cereal? We want to hear from you in the comments!

The Second Pillar of Friendship: Friendship is Serendipitous

We’re posting a five-part series based on co-founder Catherine Cook’s TEDxBay Area Women talk! Check back here for the next installment.

The chat rooms of old and most current social services are missing the serendipity. Serendipity is a fortunate accident that brings people together, like fate. Serendipitous interactions are key in all relationships. Serendipity is what gets you to feel that spark of chemistry with a friend. It’s that spark that separates friends you will grow away from and friends who have the potential to drastically change your life – and sometimes all that spark needs is the timing to be right.

But the companies that provide ways of meeting new people neglect to make it serendipitous because it is incredibly difficult to do. A lot of companies focus on organizing people in a list by compatibility and recent activity, but there is nothing engaging or interactive about that method. It’s basically just digitizing a phone book.

Engineering serendipity would change friendship making forever. People don’t want to pick someone out of a list. We needed these new friendships to feel serendipitous, just like they are in real life. My real friends and I were brought together by something other than picking each other’s names out of a list. Friendship needs to feel lucky.

In what ways are your own friendships serendipitous? How is making a new friend different for you online than it is offline? Let us know in the comments section!

The First Pillar of Friendship: Friendship is Necessary

Beginning today, we’ll be posting a five-part series based on Founder Catherine Cook’s TEDxBay Area Women talk! Check back here for the next installment.

Friendship has and always will define a person’s life. It is the basis for marriage, relationships, mentors, and society. And, how we maintain these friendships is evolving around us. The connections we make with people now is completely different than the interactions we had with people less than 10 years ago. People text more than they call, we prefer to IM than to write an email, and we wish friends who we still think about but haven’t seen in 15 years happy birthday because Facebook told us to. Technology has made it easy to stay in touch with friends who otherwise, before texting and Facebook, we would have grown apart from. All of our interactions with friends are changing, but that doesn’t make them any less rich. Our friendships are now an extension of our digital selves. As friendships themselves increasingly migrate online, it’s only natural that friendship-making will too.

But, for friendship-making to work we need to recognize five essential truths relating to the nature of friendships and the parts of friendship that can never change.

Though it works for kindergarteners, saying “Will you be my friend?” seems needy and odd as you get older. Easy friendship-making seems confined to those made in elementary school, yet, our desire for friendships and social interactions is a basic human need, and the value of friendship increases as we age.

According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, before a person is motivated to pursue the higher level needs such as being confident and gaining creativity, they need friends. They need that feeling of belongingness before they can reach the higher self-actualization needs. But, if friendship is such a basic human need, why wasn’t there anything out there to help us make friends?

One of the Internet’s core uses was to help people make friends and connect people no matter how far away they lived. I remember joining AOL chat rooms and lobbies on AIM to meet new people. I liked figuring out if we had anything in common and chatting, but these rooms started to get less popular because these interactions were missing something important that I had in my real-life friends: serendipity.

How many close friends do you have? Do you feel like you belong to a particular group of people? Tell us in the comments section!

 

How do you say ‘friendship’ in nine languages at once? MeetMe!

Here at MeetMe, the best part of our day is learning about the connections our members have made with each other through our site. There are lots of ways to connect. Whether it’s discussing the hobbies you’re passionate about or simply chatting about your day, there’s one word that starts it all – hello!

That’s all it takes to embark on a new friendship. It might sound almost too easy, but it’s true!

Today, we’re proud to announce that MeetMe is now available in nine languages. Nine! Now we’re helping people connect with each other all over the world, and we’re excited to hear about the international friendships that blossom as a result.

Want to try your hand at saying hello to a new friend in a foreign language? Check out all the ways you can say hello on MeetMe below. Just don’t ask us how to pronounce it in Russian :)

English – Hello

Spanish – Hola

Portuguese – Ola

French – Bonjour

Italian – Ciao

German – Guten Tag

Japanese – Kon-ichiwa

Chinese – Ni hao

Russian – Zdravstvuyte

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